I don’t usually give advice when it comes to relationships, given my less than stellar record in that department, but tonight’s sermon from Kairos inspired me to pass along some hopefully helpful tidbits.
Well, actually one tidbit. Don’t settle. Ever.
Don’t ever settle for someone who abuses you physically, mentally, emotionally, or in any other way. In fact, if you’re with someone who does that, leave. Immediately. Don’t wait around and hope it will change or that the other person will change. Just go.
Don’t ever settle for someone who treats you like you’re less. As in less than the amazing image bearer of God that you are. As in less than the son or daughter of the King that you are.
Don’t ever settle for someone who takes you for granted.
Don’t ever settle for someone who still thinks and acts like a child and wants freedom without responsibility.
Don’t ever settle for someone who is complacent about who they are and where they’re going in life, someone who isn’t willing to make the effort to change.
Don’t ever settle for someone who doesn’t bring out your best self and inspire you to be all that God created you to be.
Don’t ever settle for someone to not be alone. Some of the loneliest people are the ones who settled for people they weren’t meant to be with and who made them feel inferior and alone.
Don’t ever settle because of the lie that you are somehow less than complete or less of a person without someone in your life. Only Jesus completes you. If you’re not already whole, no one can make you whole.
Don’t be afraid to be alone. There’s a vast difference between alone and lonely. You can be alone with God and be more fulfilled than in any relationship. In fact, it’s good for everyone at some point to be alone so that you become comfortable with who you are.
Learn to love God and yourself. Learn to embrace the season of life you’re in and be fully to where you are, wherever you are. You can only be a better person for it.